True Friends Accept One Another

We are human beings created with faults and imperfections. True friends accept and love one another despite their human imperfections, and knowing that talents and treasures are also buried within.

Acceptance that a friend shows another creates peace, which allow one to relax and share openly. When someone constantly judging what another person says or does, he/she doesn’t allow the other person to relax, making friendship nearly impossible. Acceptance doesn’t mean that one approves of everything that his/her friends does; rather, it means that he accepts his/her friend as a human being.

Many people get this wrong, thinking that they cannot accept someone until he does things right. No one does everything right, making all of us unacceptable and lonely.

When one commit mistakes, the other should forgive. Forgiveness coupled with grace will make the relationship stronger.

According to Orrin Woodward, “Everyone needs personal growth, and it’s only through acceptance that the soul is nourished to pursue approval and appreciation.”

Here is a story about power of acceptance.


A water bearer had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole, which he carried across his neck. One pot had a crack in it, while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walk from the well to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full. For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his house.

Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect for which it was made. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.

After two years of feeling a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the well.

"I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you. I have been able to deliver only half my load because of this crack on my side causes water to leak as you walk all the way back to your house.  Because of my flaws, you have to do all this work, and you don’t get the full value of your efforts," the pot said.

The bearer said to the pot, "Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path, but not on the other pot's side? That's because I have always known about your flaw, and I planted flower seeds on your side of the path. Every day while we walk back, you've watered them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house."


Challenge 1: Recognize the hidden hurts, fears, vulnerabilities, and weakness of a friend.  Accept, approve, and appreciate without judging.  Free him/her to become what he/she ought to be.  Practice it from the heart. 

Challenge 2: After you build a strong relationship, pay it forward your new found wisdom to another person by sharing this story.

Image and video: Copyrighted by Monument Creative GH
Source: RESOLVED: 13 Resolutions for LIFE by Orrin Woodward

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Make Someone Happy When I arrived in St. Louis, MO in the last week of June 1965, I left six children ages 11 months to 7 years old and my wife in Cebu City, in the Philippines. I was 33 years old then, lonely, miserable, and worried about how they would cope with life in my absence. Thanks to my friendly nature, I made friends with the younger faculty members at the Washington University School of Medicine where I was teaching. To keep my sanity, I played tennis with my new found friends in the free tennis courts in Forest Park on weekends. On one occasion, while playing mixed doubles tennis, I noticed an elderly couple in the grandstands pointing towards our group and seemingly having a spirited argument. I looked around and concluded that the couple were probably talking about me because I was the only person who looked different, all others being white Americans. We completed the game and exited the tennis courts. The elderly white woman was smiling and waiting for me. She explained that she and her husband were trying to guess my nationality and they had bet $10. She said "my husband thinks you are Japanese but I told him I think you are Eskimo." Without batting an eyelash and returning the smile, my instant response was: "You are right, but how did you know, there are not many of us around." She screamed "I won! I won! Now I can collect my #10!" With that she ran back to her husband in jubilation.