Top 10 Father to Son Life Lessons
I’m cleaning my office and I saw the small book with its cover already faded yellow titled “Father to Son. Life Lessons on Raising a Boy.”, and then all the happy and sad memories came back on raising Tim. Yes, my Tim… Timmy… Timothy… Timber… as I called him is now a young man with a good character and promising career, and daring to make it to the world. As for me, I think I did a good job as a Dad with the love and support of my wife, family, and friends.
The book is not a be-all and end-all book for Dads; but it’s a great, quick, practical, and easy book to guide, to remind, to teach, and to inspire.
Here are my Top 10 Father to Son Life Lessons
For Little Boys
- Treasure your time with your son.
- Read to him nightly. He’ll love it.
- Teach him to ride a two-wheel bike. It means freedom. Jog alongside.
- Ask him what he did today. Listen.
- Let him hang out with you. Remember, he has a need to be around you, to learn what being a man is all about.
- Race him. You’ll never forget the day he beats you.
- Never tell him boys don’t cry. Ask him why he’s crying.
- Don’t tolerate temper tantrums. Not now. Not when he’s 15. The world won’t.
- Don’t let him quit out of frustration. He won’t learn anything.
- Teach him that every life is precious.
- Teach him never to be afraid to try new things.
For Boys and Sports
- Don’t forget that the point of sports when you’re a kid is to have fun.
- Celebrate after every game.
- If you find yourself yelling at him or the referee, take a book to the game and go sit far away from everyone else. They’ll think you’re a bit odd, but your son will appreciate it.
- Show him how to lift weights.
- Make him carry his own athletic bag.
- Do not criticize him after his games. He knows exactly what he did. He needs a father to support him. His coach will criticize him.
- Practice with him and he will get better. This goes for anything… including math.
- Keep in mind, if his soccer (or baseball or basketball or any game) team is more important to you than it is to him, something is wrong. With you.
- Teach him how to lose. Teach him how to win.
- Accept the fact he may not be a quarterback, he may be a tuba player. And a fine one at that.
For Boys and Spirituality
- Remember, your primary duty as a father is to develop your son’s spiritual well-being.
- Teach him the difference between lonely and being alone.
- Teach him success in the face of adversity is the greatest success of all.
- Talk to him about God, about Jesus, about Moses, (about Saints), about spiritual leaders often. Start this when he’s young and he won’t be shy talking about them as a teenager.
- Pray together as a family, then teach him to pray on his own.
- When he’s confronted with a serious problem, encourage him to ask God for help in solving it.
- Teach him that God answers every prayer. Sometimes with a no.
- Teach him that God can be trusted.
- Teach him to pray for his enemies.
- Teach him that forgiving someone isn’t a weakness, but the height of selfishness --- because it makes you feel so much better.
For Boys and Money
- Teach how to negotiate a raise.
- Teach him nothing is free.
- Never be afraid to say, “We can’t afford it.”
- Teach him that if he wants something bad enough, that is a reason to go to work.
- Teach him to save. Help him open a savings account.
- Teach him that if he can’t buy the best, buy the best value.
- Help him buy a small about of stock with his own money when he’s twelve. Think how rich he’ll be if he keeps that up for fifty years.
- Teach him to pay his bills promptly.
- Teach him to use a credit card only in emergencies, then give him one.
- Teach him to wait for sales.
For Boys and Girls
- Let your son know you’re as confused about women as he is.
- Hug and kiss his mother in front of him often. He’ll say he’s disgusted, but ignore him.
- Never criticize his mother in front of him. Never, never, never.
- Encourage him to ask out that blonde.
For Older Boys
- Teach him to set goals. Start small. For many teenage boys, just setting the alarm clock is a goal.
- Teach him never to give up.
- Teach him to call his mom.
- In the end, LET HIM GO.
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